Sunday, 23 June 2013

Entry 7

Entry 7

The truth should be worded carefully.

Dear Internet,

I'm still not entirely sure how this one works or what it really means. The truth is just, well, the truth, is it not? If anyone could enlighten me, it would be much appreciated. This happened several months back when we were discussing a member of our group and how she was being a huge pain in arse and how we should break it to her. My suggestion was to just tell her, but apparently "the truth should be worded carefully".This, of course, was followed by many mutters of agreement and so I just stopped talking.

Unfortunately - or fortunately, depending on what view you hold - being blunt is just one of those things we aspies do. We can't help it. A lot of people appreciate honesty and we may occasionally get thanked for being truthful, but as ever there are people who are unable to handle said truth. Often our words are interpreted as cold, insensitive or intentionally rude. It's just one of those things that shouldn't happen but does.

From Sarah.


  1. Well, one thing I've noticed helps is if you are going to tell someone you are in some way displeased with them, they get less upset if you include some bland friendliness, something like, "It's really nice to have you in our group, but can you not do such-and-such? Thanks." Of course, it sometimes takes a lot of energy to do this and isn't always possible.
    I don't think there's any reason the truth should be worded more carefully than something false, so maybe the saying should just be, "Sometimes you can keep people from getting upset by wording things carefully."
    -another aspie

    1. You know, I never thought to start with a complement. Social interaction is so draining! Thank you for you comment.